Long distance relationshipsTips and advice for handling long distance relationships and how to deal with long distance relationships
A long distance relationship can arise from either meeting someone who already lives along distance away, for example maybe a holiday romance or at college/university, or from having a relationship but changes in your circumstances can lead to one or both of you having to move away from one another.
Additionally work or studying can often play a large part in meaning you have to conduct a long distance relationship, which can especially be the case if you work odd hours, irregular hours, you are a shift worker or work unsociable hours. A long distance relationship can also have a lot of relevance with people who work long hours as there may be similar issues and challenges to overcome.
Below is some tips, advice and general thoughts, issues and problems you may come across with long distance relationships
Either way long distance relationships can mean some things like dating and relationships get compromised, for example spending time in the evening together. But alternatively on the other hand some things can be better, for example spending whole weekends together rather than just evenings. However long distance relationships can be more difficult to balance as for some people it is not something which comes naturally.
Length of time you are apart for the long distance relationship?
As with a lot of things that can perhaps be a little hard to deal with, it can be an idea to have something to aim for in terms of how long you will both have to deal with a long distance relationship. As touched upon above, depending on your lifestyle and your relationship expectations for long distance relationships, they can sometimes work really well and therefore a long distance relationship with large time gaps may not present such a problem or an issue.
For others it may be helpful to see if it is possible to contain the longer periods of separation into smaller chunks as is fitting. For example, instead of seeing each other only every two months, a time duration of six weeks could be a compromise and be a more manageable time period.
On other hand short duration long distance relationships but more frequently, can mean that you are travelling large distances often which can be time consuming and potentially costly. Therefore it could help that instead of spending a week apart but then only getting one full day together, it may be feasible to spend a whole weekend together but at a two week frequency.
How we deal with the time period of separation and our lifestyles can be quite different and also it can sometimes help to mix it up to provide a change to the regularity of it. Additionally at first if you have to transition to a long distance relationship or one in which you do not see each other as often, the prospect can cause a lot of stress and heated debates, but once you have started and are getting used to this phase it can sometimes not be as bad as at first it seemed.
Making the most of the time when you do get a chance to see one another
So you don’t maybe see as much of each other that you want to and when you do finally see one another there can sometimes be lots of pressure.
This can involve wanting to spend as much time with one another as possible, get everything done that you need to do together and spending time with the family and children. However these pressures can sometimes mean stress, unfulfilled expectations and arguments – you don’t spend much time together so probably the last thing you want to deal with are these extra pressures.
With these short time constraints it may help to try and organise your time. Not maybe to the extent that it is a tightly scheduled plan, but perhaps maybe more things that you have to get done and things you’d like to do combined with how much actual time you’ll have. Being upfront with what you want and what you would like can help to try and keep everyone happy and manage expectations.
Long distance relationships can present a challenge to a relationship, although by being aware of some of the potential problems and learning to deal with the long distance relationship you both can overcome this if you both are able to compromise. Good luck!